25 Things No Black Woman Will Admit To

WHEN YOU SLIP ON A BANANA PEEL, PEOPLE LAUGH AT YOU. BUT WHEN YOU TELL PEOPLE YOU SLIPPED ON A BANANA PEEL, IT'S YOUR LAUGH, SO YOU BECOME A HERO RATHER THAN THE VICTIM OF THE JOKE. - NORA EPHRON

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Under all of that black girl magic is a host of secrets holding her back from her full potential. The thing about living up to your full potential is that you have to be honest with yourself. Sometimes that takes more than just letting your insecurities, secrets and flaws play in your head over and over again. Let them out and you can let them go. 

Since I know how hard it could be to admit the dark truths holding you back, I'll write them out loud for you. Here are 25 things most black women wouldn't dare admit to the public: 

  1. I regret pushing some people away.
  2. I regret the things I've said to an old friend.
  3. I regret the things I’ve said without thinking to friends.
  4. Some friendships ended because I'm a control freak.
  5. My biggest fear is ending up like my mother. 
  6. Being an independent woman is dope but I want someone to take care of me too. 
  7. I’m afraid I’ll end up alone for the rest of my life. 
  8. I’m afraid no one will ever want to marry me. 
  9. I’m afraid I won’t find love.
  10. I’m afraid I will find love but mess it up. 
  11. I’m afraid to commit to the wrong man. 
  12. If I do meet the right guy, will I be good enough for him? 
  13. I have no desire in being someone’s mother and taking care of them. 
  14. I need somebody to hold me. 
  15. I hope celibacy doesn't make me miss out on the one. 
  16. I cherish the moments when I can say "At least I didn't sleep with him."
  17. I enjoying playing games just as much as he does as long as I'm winning. 
  18. There's a reason I don't have many girlfriends. Girlfriends can break your heart too, and it hurts just as much as a man breaking your heart, if not more.
  19. I made a suicide attempt. 
  20. I'm in denial about my bipolar disorder diagnosis.  
  21. I find it difficult not to be petty. 
  22. A friend told me to my face how she thought another person was a mental illness like me is crazy af. She has no idea how she broke my heart that night. 
  23. I feel like I have to constantly prove myself to people.
  24. I don't feel like a strong black woman. 
  25. I shy away from woman-to-man talks. I rather pretend I don't care than have him to think I'm weak. 

The moment you surrender your truth, you can rewrite it. Whatever it was before, it doesn't own you anymore. 

Now that that's out and in the open, back to being a savage...

CHALLENGE

Write your own list of 25 things you want to let go of.

Pray over it, write forgiveness over it, or share it with a friend.

Whatever you do, this is your moment of self-reflection and healing.

make it work for you.